When my husband and I were first married, we had this unspoken rule that touching and kissing and certainly love-making was off limits when one of us was sick. Maybe some of you relate or maybe you think that's just plain ridiculous. But, seriously though. I'm not always feeling the most beautiful or energetic or even really alive when I'm under the weather. When I have a cold, I sometimes wad up the edge of a tissue and just shove it up my nose. Super sexy-right?!
I mean, why would he even really want to touch me when my hair is a disaster, my nose is red, my eyes are puffy and I probably have dried snot somewhere on my clothes and/or body. The truth is- he still does want to touch me. That's some unconditional love right there!
I got that lucky. Even in my crusty, nasty sick state, my husband still loves to cuddle me, play with my hair, fetch me tissues and even initiate a quickie. It's amazing for me. I crave touch and closeness- especially when I'm sick. I'm glad we were able to get over that initial bump years ago and realize it's okay to still touch each other when one or both of us is under the weather. He knows just what to do to make me feel better. I remember hearing once in my sex therapy class that having an orgasm can actually help relieve some sick symptoms (even if just momentarily). Maybe it's just placebo effect, but I'll take it.
How do you survive getting through sickness with each other?
What do you need/want?
Is touching allowed?
Remember this episode of Friends where Monica is sick and still ends up seducing him?