How to do a Sexy Lap Dance

Celebrate the holiday by making a few fireworks of your own and putting on a show for your man!

Lap dance tips:

• Use a chair that has a higher back and no arms
• Tell him he can't touch you while you are dancing. Make sure you tell him before hand because he will probably try at least a few times which could throw off your groove.
• Tell him that you might reposition him and that when you do it he should obey so it doesn't sow you down
• Have confidence and look him in the eye.
• If you can't look at his eyes, look at his forehead between his eyes
• Mix things up. Stand close to him or on the chair, then back away or walk around. Keep him guessing.

You can go here to subscribe and watch actual videos of the moves. Just go to Lessons and then Lap Dances. There are also instructional videos for pole dancing. Wow! Now, that's a workout!

Make your lap dance even better by getting a little special something to wear (Up to 80% off!). 

Remember to keep it fun and be confident!

Here are some moves to get you going:

Walk around drag: Walk around behind him and lightly drag your hand up his arm, around his neck, and back down his other arm.

Kiss Miss: Psych your guy out so he thinks you are going to kiss him. Kneel with your right knee between his legs and place your right arm around his neck. Place your left knee on his right thigh. Most of your weight will be on the chair. Use his neck for leverage and lean back and slowly come in, scooping forward as if to kiss him but glide right past his ear. Kiss or bite his ear or whisper something if you want to.

Leg show: place a foot between his knees. Slowly caress your leg with both hands starting up at the top of your thigh going all the way down to your foot.
Grind: Sit either with your back to him or your front to him. Maintain eye contact if your front is to him. Grind backwards and forwards or in circles while you’re sitting on his lap.

Stand up: Place right foot between his legs and stand up, placing your left foot on his right thigh. With your left hand jerk his head down, gyrate your hips, push his head back and step down.

The Melt: Sit with your weight on him and your cheeks touching. Slowly slide down his body, like you are melting to the floor. Keep your right foot on the ground and fold your left leg so you are kneeling on it. Then when you get to the ground you will be able to crawl away easier
Chest Press: Crawl up to him and place a hand on each thigh. Slowly press and drag your chest up his knees and lower thighs.

Zipper Shock: reach down and grab his jeans zipper between your teeth. Jerk your head back several times and try to lower his zipper some.


If any of you know of some other moves or of good instructional videos, send them my way or post in the comments!

Gwen in Love Video

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When You're Sick

Is it just me or does anybody else have a cold just in time for it to get warm and fun outside?

When my husband and I were first married, we had this unspoken rule that touching and kissing and certainly love-making was off limits when one of us was sick. Maybe some of you relate or maybe you think that's just plain ridiculous. But, seriously though. I'm not always feeling the most beautiful or energetic or even really alive when I'm under the weather. When I have a cold, I sometimes wad up the edge of a tissue and just shove it up my nose. Super sexy-right?!

I mean, why would he even really want to touch me when my hair is a disaster, my nose is red, my eyes are puffy and I probably have dried snot somewhere on my clothes and/or body. The truth is- he still does want to touch me. That's some unconditional love right there!

I got that lucky. Even in my crusty, nasty sick state, my husband still loves to cuddle me, play with my hair, fetch me tissues and even initiate a quickie. It's amazing for me. I crave touch and closeness- especially when I'm sick. I'm glad we were able to get over that initial bump years ago and realize it's okay to still touch each other when one or both of us is under the weather. He knows just what to do to make me feel better. I remember hearing once in my sex therapy class that having an orgasm can actually help relieve some sick symptoms (even if just momentarily). Maybe it's just placebo effect, but I'll take it.

How do you survive getting through sickness with each other?

What do you need/want?

Is touching allowed?

Remember this episode of Friends where Monica is sick and still ends up seducing him?

What to Expect for Laser Hair Removal

Setting up a laser hair removal can be a bit nerve racking if you don't know what to expect. Luckily, it can be done without much pain and happens fairly fast!

Make sure you research laser removal centers in your area. Google can be your best friend.

Do some research on the types of lasers and what is best for your skin type and hair color. In general, lasers work best on people with dark hair and light skin. I've heard that a lot don't work well on blonde or red hair, but there a few that do (and more coming out that will work).

Make sure you don't have any medical risks that could lead to bad after effects. Do a consultation with the spa or office you have chosen.

Ask what kind of pain reliever is used. Some places use ice, some use numbing cream, some use a cooling device and some may use a different method.

You will need to shave the area being lasered before going in. Yes, shave. Don't pluck or wax. Lasering works by killing the hair follicle so you need to have part of it there beneath the skin.

You will be asked to undress and uncover whatever area will be worked on and lay on a table. If you are doing bikini line, you may be asked to wear some paper panties.

You will wear some protective glasses to shield your eyes from the laser.

Be prepared to move around as necessary. If you're getting the Brazilian done, they may have you roll over, prop your butt up on the air while spreading your butt cheeks to get everywhere. It's not pretty, but it means they can get all of the hair.

I would say it feels a bit like the pain you may get when shaving with a dull razor if you don't have the best anesthetic. It's not as bad as waxing. Each zap gets the skin in about a one inch radius.

Apply aloe vera afterward. The cooling effect is great.

You will look like a plucked chicken for a couple days. If you have big swelling and raised bumps after a couple days still, be a bit concerned.

After about 2 weeks, you should notice hair falling out and thinning.

Return for your follow up 4-8 weeks later or as suggested.

Have some "Fun"

My best friend and her husband have a code phrase they like to use for having sex. They call it "having fun". It works out pretty well for them!!

They can be in a group of people and say "Hey, want to 'have fun' later?" with a wink and know what the other is really wanting. They can say it in front of the friends, "Honey, I just want to have some fun" and the kids will just think you are planning to do something fun- which you really are.

I love the code phrases and words for a few reasons. It allows you to say what you really want without making yourself completely vulnerable and having to say the "s" word if that's out of your comfort zone. It allows your partner to get excited and look forward to something. It gives you something secretive and romantic to share with each other that others won't have a clue about.

Do you have any code words or phrases?

How do you hint that you're in the mood?

Wahl 7-in-1 Massager

I've been using the Wahl 7 in 1 from Babelend and I must say I love it!!

The great thing about the Wahl is it is just a standard massager. You can use it for whatever you want- "normal" massage or a bit more personal sexy massage.  If you want a discrete vibrator to use, you could buy this and nobody would ever know what you really use it for. It comes with a variety of attachments including ones for deep massage, scalp massage, and facial massage. It has 2 settings that work really well. The first is a softer massage and the other is for deeper more intense pleasure. It fits comfortably in your hard and it's really quiet, too.

I'm personally a big fan of the scalp massage attachment. It's amazing how relaxing that is for me!

Go ahead and try it out. You won't regret it!