Erectile Dysfunction

It is estimated that about 90% of men will experience some kind of erectile problem at some point in their lives. In most cases, the problem is short-lived and is quickly resolved.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability to maintain an erection during sexual activity at least 25% of the time. The majority of ED causes are psychological, but physical and other issues may contribute. A common cycle that occurs in men that struggle with ED is that an erection is difficult to achieve during one encounter, then he worries about it and may worry about it during other encounters inhibiting erection or avoid sexual encounters. Worrying about it makes it more difficult. Sometimes, ED may act as a precursor to future cardiovascular disease.

Common treatments include maintaining a healthier lifestyle- eating well, exercising regularly, quitting smoking, treating cardiovascular issues and having relational support. Having a supportive partner can make all of the difference.

A Woman's Guide to ED

Diagnosis & Tests

7 Myths of ED

Couple Sleep Positions

What's your couple sleep position?

We usually start in the Sweetheart's Cradle until he falls asleep, then I roll over to my side of the bed. He likes to be close and I like to breathe my own air to sleep. We're usually doing the Leg Hug by morning.

Some researchers came up with fun explanations for each position. You can read about them here.

Comfort Sex

There was recently an article about comfort sex.Most women don't orgasm the first few times and the number one sexual dysfunction for men is premature ejaculation so flings may not be as potentially enjoyable as a monogomous relationship. The author talks about how when you're in a long-term relationship, it's easier to relax. A long-term relationship provides the comfort needed to fully release control, get to know your partner and develop a sexual script. There's joy in knowing how things are going to happen and knowing you don't always have to put on a show. There's comfort in knowing you'll love each other no matter what.

Some people while having sex or trying something new start to engage in spectatoring- worrying about what they're doing while they're doing it. This makes sex much less enjoyable and can even contribute to some sexual dysfunction.

The best comfort sex allows you to just relax and enjoy the full benefits.

Shunga Product Recommendations

I receive a lot of emails asking for anniversary, birthday, and other gift ideas. The products from Shunga are among my favorite. They are very high quality and come packaged beautifully, great for gift giving. They really make you feel special when you open them.

All of the products in their line are exceptional, but here are a few of my favorites:

Garden of Edo Organic Collection set:

$94.95

Includes: Exotic Green Tea Massage Oil, Exotic Green tea Aphodisiac Oil, TOKO Organica lubricant, Lotus Noir enhancing gel for her & him, Lotus Flower erotic Bath Salt from the dead sea.

This is a great gift set that has a little bit of everything. The enhancing gel does the trick without being too overpowering and all of the oils and sea salts have nice scent without being too intense.

''Secret Garden'' Female Orgasm Enhancing Cream:

$24.99

"Apply on the clitorital region by taking time to massage the tissue under the clitoris. You will discover new sensations that may take you to the limits of female orgasm. "

This is a great product. Especially for girls who struggle with relaxing and allowing themselves to become aroused. I highly recommend it.

“Rain of Love” G-Spot Arousal Cream:

$25.99

"Did you know that every woman has a G-Spot? The G-Spot stimulation can lead to intense feelings and new heights of sexual arousal, even to multiple orgasms within a same intercourse! Discover the “Rain of Love” to: Learn how to localize the G-Spot; Discover, with or without a partner, your G-Spot; Explore many positions that will help you arouse the G-Spot; Spice up your love life; Enjoy your G-Spot and reach the ultimate orgasm pleasure!"

This is similar in theory to the Secret Garden cream mentioned above, but is placed just inside your vagina on the G-spot. The two products actually go quite well together. Very impressive little potion :)

Shunga has many other products (oils, male sensitizing and sensitizing creams, etc.) They are all organic and all fabulous. Have you tried this line before? Which product is your favorite?

Feelin' Sexy Friday -- Exercise

Get a good work out in during the day.

Maybe, it's just going for a walk with the kids during the day. Join a gym in your area or join a local dance class. Dance around your living room for a while. Just make sure you're doing something physical.

Exercising will decrease stress and anxiety while improving your mood, energy and body image.

Sheet Music by Kevin Leman

A colleague recently recommended this book to me and I absolutely love it! Dr. Leman is a Christian Psychologist and is very clear and blunt in this book while still being tasteful. This is a great book to help you in your sexual relationship and marriage. He talks about sexual satisfaction, dysfunction, a few positions and techniques, differences and similarities between men and women etc.

Here's a little excerpt: (you may have to click to zoom in and read)