DIY Makeup Remover

Coconut Oil!

Yes, this stuff!

I've found this works really great for removing even waterproof mascara. Be careful not to get it in your eyes. Supposedly, it helps your lashes grow longer and thicker as well.

DIY Shave Gel

Use conditioner when you shave instead of shave gel . 

If you have really sensitive skin like me, this will leave you with a silky smooth shave and little or no razor burn. This also works really well for the hair down there and will leave less bumps and burn, too, because of the added moisturizer in conditioner.

I love it because I can buy the cheap 70 cent conditioner and it lasts a while and I'm finding it's way more effective and much better on my skin than the $4 shave gel, anyway.

Swimsuit season is here so give it a try and let me know what you think!

Have You Had Your 6-Second Kiss Today?

Described by Dr. Gottman as “long enough to feel romantic,” the six-second kiss serves as a temporary oasis within a busy day (ex: going to or from work).

Greeting your partner with affection communicates their importance to you while reminding them of the good feelings you share when you’re in each other’s company.

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Our “rituals of connections are crucial,” because they serve not only to re-establish the connection with our partners, but also to protect our relationships from betrayal. “The parting and reunion [moments] turn out to be really important,” asserts Dr. Gottman. Attention spent on each other in transitional junctures communicates that “you’re important to me, and when you come back at the end of the day, it’s an event. You matter to me.”

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Occasionally, we post some interesting research and links over there like these...

Why Sex is a Better Headache Cure than Painkillers


The impact of sexual activity on idiopathic headaches: An observational study.


Vanilla sex is OUT, porn addiction is IN: Disturbing survey reveals how porn is damaging our relationships



Designer Genitalia: The Modification of Women’s Genitals

The Ultimate Date Night Book

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Masturbation to Boost Your Libido

Masturbation can be a great tool in boosting your desire and enjoyment during sex. As our guest post mentioned, it has greatly enhanced her desire and intimacy with her husband. We've featured a couple other posts about masturbation as well and some of the readers comments on these have been wonderful. If you're struggling with a low libido or struggling to orgasm, masturbation is one tool you could possibly use.

32% of our readers that have participated in our poll on the sidebar either said "Ewww! You said the M word" or "I wouldn't know how".

Masturbation can occur in a variety of settings. You can masturbate alone or take part in what's referred to in the therapy field as "mutual masturbation". This means that you can direct your partner to do what feels comfortable to you either by word or by moving his hand or you can both masturbate together, but separately.

I firmly believe that every woman should be aware of her anatomy as a starting point. If you were the kind of girl to never look at that page in your health book of anatomy and grew squeamish at the thought of sex ed, then you really, really need to check out the link above. Please know about your clitoris and where it is. Did you know there are more nerve endings on a clitoris than a penis? Woman: An Intimate Geography is a great book to become familiar with your body and instill in you some pride about being a woman.

Once you have the understanding of your anatomy, learn about the sexual response cycle and how it typically works for a female. Some parts may feel uncomfortable or weird. It's normal to lubricate, it's normal to feel tense, some women even feel like they are about to pee. Just know the stages and don't freak out about your body's natural reaction. The SRC is a very natural part of life.

If you're going to try masturbating, you can include your partner or do it on your own. Whatever you choose, just make sure you feel comfortable and relaxed. You can use a vibrator if you'd like or you could also use your partner and/or yourself for stimulation. Some say that a vibrator is the best way to go at first while others argue that it's way too powerful and difficult to not have that control. Just go with what feels best to you. You may want lubricant nearby if you don't lubricate well. You could also try just going over your underwear and not touching directly. There's no right or wrong way.

Your mind is a very powerful tool so use it! Often women are more psychologically aroused by romance and other kind gestures, but women can also be aroused by things they see or fantasize about as well. Use whatever works for you in the moment.

Some tips:

• Allow yourself to relax and unwind.
• Be in a place that is peaceful to you. Some have suggested a bath or shower or bed.
• Be in a comfortable position. Many women suggest lying on their stomach or on their back.
• Use your mind, let go and fantasize a bit. Fantasies can include your husband- it doesn't have to be some elaborate fetish or situation. Wherever your mind brings you. Just let it in and go with it.
• Add a little variety to your sex life throughout the day to keep it on your mind. 
• Here's another list of ideas to add variety and spice things up.
• Allow yourself to see what feels best to you. Guide your partner. Be direct with him. Try sensate focus over a period of a couple days or weeks.
• Figure out what gets you in the mood. If you're watching a movie or reading a book and feel a bit turned on, hold on to that feeling. What did you like about it?
• Babeland sells some "Best of Erotica" Books to get you in the mood that readers have raved about. For Yourself : The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality is another book one of our readers suggested.

If you need are in dire need of some direct instruction and how-to, a reader left some tips on a previous post in a comment that she got from another Christian Marriage Site.

What tips would you share for those wanting to try it out?

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Now through February 13th, you will save up to 20% on some of Babeland's holiday and disco items.

Plus, 20% Off on all Jimmyjane products - ends Sunday. 

And, through Monday, February 11th, customers can receive a free special gift (Bondage in a Box Kit) with their purchase of $99+. Use code TIEDUP at checkout.

Guest Post: Taking Matters Into My Own Hands

Let me start by saying that my husband and I have always had a great sex life, but along the way we’ve learned that we can always use improvement in order to make our sex life even more fun and exciting. After nearly 10 years of marriage and two kids later, I can say something that I never thought I’d say  - masturbation has greatly improved our sex life.

I must preface this by saying that masturbation is relatively new for me. I didn’t masturbate growing up, and in our early years of marriage, I didn’t give it any consideration. My husband had a regular habit of masturbating (of course!) and when we were engaged, he wanted me to get a vibrator in hopes that I would start my own habit of masturbating. So I purchased a vibrator. Not for myself but for him, and I still remember how unattractive it was. It was big, pink and just plain ugly. Needless to say its services were never put to use. 

Fast-forward a few years. After having our first child, we revisited the vibrator topic. As you know, intercourse is out of the question both physically and mentally for those first few postpartum weeks, but once the romance starts to return and the sex drive is heating back up, let’s face it, sex is still not that great. About four weeks after our first child, I was ready to go, but sex was often uncomfortable and even painful at times.

As a result, we went on the search for a new sexier vibrator, but this time it was me who wanted it; I wasn’t simply doing it for my husband. It was the best purchase we have ever made for our sex life, and it allowed me to see for the first time that sex toys can be sexy, fun, and very beneficial.

I am still not one to regularly masturbate alone, but I love doing it in conjunction with my husband. There are many occasions where neither of us feels like having sex, but the thought of only masturbating seems very appealing. No need to find the right position or worry about having enough time. It is fast, easy, and effective.

We masturbate together about twice a week, and it has improved our sex life in more ways than one. I have learned so much about my body through masturbation, including how to better use fantasy, how to have multiple orgasms, and how to better identify G-spot vs. clitoral orgasms. There is something empowering about taking my sexual needs into my own hands, literally.

As I look back, maybe I should have given that big, ugly vibrator a chance!

Check out the vibrator selection at Babeland! They even have a section for beginners! There are also some couple vibrators, mini, discreet and a whole bunch of other categories. The Hitachi Magic Wand is always a favorite as is the Siri if you need a place to start.

If you want a bit more guidance to self lovin check out this book.

Valentine's Day: A Guide to Lingerie

Valentine's Day is a great opportunity to get a new outfit for the bedroom- especially if you haven't added to your collection in a while or are just needing to start.

If you're skeptical about lingerie, here are some great reasons to try it out:

• It can help get you in the mood
• It helps increase the anticipation
• It helps increase desire
• You can feel sexy
• It adds a little variety
• It will get him more excited
• You can feel beautiful
• You can feel "dressed up"

If you're thinking, but I'm not one of those tiny girls with huge boobs that should wear lingerie, then get that thought out of your head. Those girls are very few and far between. Your husband married YOU. Your husband is attracted to YOU. YOU need to show that you love and appreciate your body how it is. YOU need to take control and give yourself some positive messages about how you look. Embrace the Muffin Top (we all have)!  Plus size women still look sexy and can order lingerie. Be daring and try some out!

I've been ordering most of my lingerie through Yandy for a couple years now. I love them because it is good quality, inexpensive and usually take about 3 days for it to arrive at my house and their return policy is great if something doesn't work out.

If you're having a difficult time knowing where to start, here are some descriptions and links to help you out.

BUSTIER

$9.95
NOTE: Yandy usually includes the garters, underwear and stockings

• Intended to accentuate curves.
• May have a little extra help and support in the bust line
• Tend to push the breasts up and together to create cleavage
• Note: May take a bit of time to get adjusted and sized once you receive it
• Prices start at $7.95

CORSET

$23.95

• Intended to give a smooth line
• Cinch in the waistline to suck in the tummy
• Note: May take a bit of time to get adjusted and sized once you receive it

BABYDOLL

$35.95

• Flowing and feminine
• Open over stomach
• Some have supportive underwire, others don't
• I think these are great for when you're pregnant and your belly just needs space, but you still want to feel dressed up
• Prices start at $4.95 at Yandy

CHEMISE

$19.95

• No buttons, snaps, velcro or zippers. Easy on. Easy off.
• Looks like a very short dress or long shirt
• Can be fitted or loose at the waist
• Usually a delicate fabric
• Great if you're a bit self-conscious of your mid-section
• There are longer gowns too
• Prices start at $5.95

ROMPERS

$27.95

• Basically like a one-piece swim suit with a lot less fabric or coverage
• Great if you want to be a tease
• Take good care of it or else you'll be untangling it whenever you want to wear it
• Prices start at $13.95 at Yandy

DRESSES

$37.95

• Great for dressing up to go out
• Simple sexy

Bra & Panties

• Simple and easy
• Basic coverage
• Matching
• $20 Sets at Yandy

Bra Top Sets

• The top is a bra, the bottom could be a skirt or thong or boyshorts or fishnets etc.
• The bra isn't a supportive, every day bra
• Prices start at $5.95

Pasties

• Just covers a small area in the middle of your breast with adhesive

Teddys

• Usually a thin lace or silk fabric
• Generally cut in a shape hugging V-shape to minimally cover breasts and crotch

Costume Lingerie

• Great for variety or role playing or fantasy fulfilling etc.

Don't forget Robes and Shoes, too.

What's your favorite style of lingerie and why?

The Game of Love

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If you missed out last year, make sure you create your very own Game of Love for Valentine's Day (It's in 24 days, by the way!).

You can just use a flat sheet so you can put it on your bed whenever you're ready to go if you don't want to use a fitted sheet. Then, create your own game board. The number of squares will be the number of "moves" you'll have to fill in. Basically, you come up with some moves to get him in the mood, tease each other a bit and have some fun. You don't have to wait until Valentine's Day to give him this gift, either.

In case you're wondering, here are The Official Game of Love Rules:
1. The player will roll a die, but the highest number can be 3 (so divide by 2 or the game goes too fast!)
2. Each square has a 1 1/2 minute time limit
3. No getting carried away- you have to stop at 90 seconds and roll again (the hubs might fight you on that one)
4. Only one person "plays" your role is just the game "facilitator"
5. The Final square is "Score" and you can't skip ahead (if ya know what I mean)

You can steal some ideas from Monica here or this list:
Shoulder rub
A little peck
-1 piece of clothing
1st base (pic of base)
Strawberries/Grapes
I love you because...
Head massage
Forward # spaces
Lose a turn
??? (roller’s choice of what you do-but remember you are doing it for the other person) 
French please!
Love the ladies (whoever rolls this the girl wins ;)
Choose your lotion (back rub…)
Mini make-out
Foot rub
2nd base
Outfit choice (you choose what the other will wear)
Back one space
Music
Free touch
+1 piece of clothing
Whipped cream
Sexy dance
XOXO…
Kiss every inch
???-your choice
Look, but don’t touch…
Forward two spaces
I love you because...
Trace/Draw on me…
Talk to me
9x8-3=??
I like mine French
"Head" massage
Close your eyes
3rd base
Chocolate pudding
Lose a turn
SCORE!!! (make sure this is last. I may have made my game go a bit odd and required lots of arrows to ensure this was last...)

If you want some toys go here. If you want to find some new, affordable lingerie go here. It could be a fun tradition to get something new (at least) every year.

Has anybody tried out this game? 

Did you actually make it through?

Guest Post: Lauren & Jason's Miracle Baby

Hello my fellow GwenInLove readers! Lauren here from reallifeexpatwife.blogspot.com. As usual, I was reading through Gwen’s blog and came across her post asking for guest bloggers. As soon as I read the request for someone to write about “How to Enjoy Sex through Infertility”, I jumped at the chance. Here’s our story.

My husband Jason and I have been married for a year and a half. I am 28 and he is 40. We met while dressed up at a Halloween party and had no clue of our age difference until our very first date where I found out more about him than I had bargained for. During that date, he spilled the beans about previously being married for 17 years, having two teenagers and about his divorce. I’m not sure if he told me that night or soon thereafter but he also made mention of the fact that he was snipped at the ripe old age of 20 thinking that he was done (he was a young daddy). I wasn’t concerned in the slightest because I had just gotten out of my previous relationship and wasn’t looking for anything serious at all. It didn’t even phase me because “it wasn’t like I was going to marry him, right?” It’s funny how things work out, isn’t it?

After dating for a little over a month, Jason told me that he was being transferred to Singapore for work. We discussed parting ways shortly after he found out so neither of us would get too attached or hurt but neither of us were ready because we were having so much fun. During one discussion I jokingly said, “Well, why don’t I just come with you then?” He said that if I was serious, he would make it happen. Three months later, in March, we were engaged. Then off we went to Singapore in April. We were so in love, happily engaged, and seeking adventure without a care in the world. We spoke about having our very own family one day and were very excited with what the future would hold.

When we spoke about having kids (before we were married) we planned that Jason would have a vasectomy reversal the fall after our wedding. It can take up to a year for the procedure to work and we knew we wanted kids sooner than later. Jason had it stuck in his head that he is an old man and didn’t want to look like the Grandpa at their high school graduation (like that could ever happen!). At this point, we had moved from Singapore and were living in Salzburg, Austria so we started researching doctors who were experienced in the field. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought that at 27 years old I would be hoping, praying to have a miracle baby with my sweet husband. In November 2011, Jason had his procedure done. After seeing the pain he went through I couldn’t help but think how much he loves me. Seriously, I felt so bad for him and wish that pain on no one. The doctor told us that because he is so young and healthy, it would most likely work and that when he felt better we could start going at it. When Jason finally let me near that region, we starting trying. It was so fun and exciting thinking that this time could be it. Rather than being discouraged, each month brought more excitement because it just had to work sooner or later. The doctor said so. I must have taken six or seven pregnancy tests before I started to feel like something just wasn’t right. Why was something that was supposed to be so right feel so wrong?

We went back to the doctor the following summer and found out that the procedure didn’t work yet and that he was still shooting blanks. Here’s the kicker though- the doctor said that it could clear out and work eventually or maybe it just didn’t work at all. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought that it wouldn’t work. It had to work. In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) was tossed around in the very beginning but I was just certain that the reversal would work. We talked about our options and decided that instead of waiting to see if it would eventually work (maybe the goop just didn’t clear out of the pipes yet) that we would start our road through IVF. We decided that we would enjoy the summer and if I still wasn’t pregnant come the end of August, we would start IVF in September.

In June, we came back to the States and found an amazing doctor we wanted to work with. Jason had his little procedure done (called a sperm aspiration) and all his little guys were frozen in case we needed them come September. I’m surprised he even let a needle near that area again. See, I told you he loves me!! 

August eventually came and I was still not pregnant. We came back to the States in September where I went through my exams, rounds of fertility drugs, and then had my egg retrieval and finally the egg transfer. Can I just tell you how emotional the process was? Especially the dreaded 2ww (two week wait) to see if the egg/s actually took. I took two pregnancy tests trying not to be discouraged before getting my BFP (big fat positive)!!

So here I am, 20 weeks pregnant with our little miracle baby. Looking back at all of the obstacles that we had to go through to get to this point, I am reminded how blessed I am and that each and every baby is a miracle no matter how it gets here. I would be lying if I said that I didn’t wish we could have a baby the “normal” way but going through something like this has made our relationship so much stronger and will forever tell our child how much he or she was wanted.

With that being said, we thoroughly enjoyed each other through out our whole infertility adventure because we never knew when or if his reversal would work. We figured if it was meant to be, it would be. So who knows, after this little one maybe by the grace of God his reversal will have unclogged and maybe, just maybe we can get pregnant again the natural way. All I know is that after baby number two, Jason said he is going to get snipped again. I can’t even believe this crazy talk of him wanting someone to yet again mess with his manhood. I mean who knows, what if he wants more? ;)

So the moral of the story is, just keep on loving each other. Enjoy each embrace, each intimate moment together because you never know when or how your little miracle baby will get here. Best of luck to those who are planning to be or are on this crazy journey. I know exactly how you feel and wish you nothing but tons of baby dust!! Much love to you all. xx

The Love Dare

A few years ago, somebody told me about the movie Fireproof and encouraged me to watch it. It's rare to find a movie that has good morals and talks about faith as well. I admit that this movie was a bit cheesy, but it was also very powerful and moving. I love seeing marriages work hard through tough times and this movie shows this couples journey together and how they come out stronger in the end. I think it's free to stream on on Netflix now if you need a good cuddly, cheap, romantic date night.

The theme throughout this movie involves a Love Dare. It's 40 Days of putting your spouse first complete with a task as well as a scripture and rationale. It's a great way to strengthen your marriage- whether you're thinking about divorce or in the newlywed stage. You can get a shortened version of the Love Dare here. Give it a shot!

Has anybody done the Love Dare? Who's willing to try it?

Day 1: Love is patient

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
—Ephesians 4:2

TODAY’S DARE

The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue...

WANTED: Guest Posts

I've had a few requests for the following:

• How to enjoy sex through infertility
• How to enjoy sex after miscarriage
• Masturbation in Marriage

Anybody want to tackle these topics before I give it a try? I think it'd be wonderful to have somebody with firsthand experience on some of these. Email me at gwenisinloveATgmail DOT com if you are interested.

Feel free to comment with some other ideas or things you want to hear about, too!

7 Great Ways to Destroy Your Marriage Over the Holidays

A friend of mine wrote this on his blog.
Make sure your priorities are straight this Holiday Season!

'Tis the season of holiday stress and strain. Are you worried that you might actually make it through the holidays with your marriage intact? Fear not!! Here are 7 ways to guarantee that your marriage will suffer this holiday season, and crash and burn for the new year!

1. Go to as many holiday activities and family festivities as you possibly can. As long as you are busy and don't take time to enjoy the season with your spouse, nothing else matters. Busy, busy, busy!
2. When you are with your parents and family, ignore your spouse. Christmas is about family, not your spouse anyway, right? If you want to add some spicy stress goodness, make sure you discuss politics whenever possible. Or how bad your sex life is. 
3. Talk with your family and friends about your marriage problems, especially your spouse's issues. Christmas is about sharing, so share away. This inconsiderate openness will surely deal a holiday blow to your marriage. 
4. Buy whatever you want. It's Christmas time! This is what credit cards are for. I mean, debt is a great way to screw things up in your marriage, so spend away.
5. Make your traditions more important than your spouse's traditions. Nothing says "I love you" during the holidays like sharing in each other's traditions. So make sure that you laugh off your spouse's silly old traditions. Add a little sarcasm or good old fashioned contempt, and your marriage is sure to suffer!
6. Don't talk about concerns or issues that may arise. The holidays are no time to discuss issues! Bottle it up and let it explode at a later, more inconvenient time. 
7. Don't take time for yourself. The holidays should be about sacrificing you own sanity and health for others. Plus your irritable mood will rub off on your spouse. There will be plenty of time to relax next year after the divorce.

If this post sounds a bit too close to reality, it may be time to reconsider your priorities. Or maybe a little therapy...

Merry Christmas, and have a Happy New Year!!

-The Marriage Doc

The 12 Lays of Christmas

Have you heard of Love, Actually? Cher posts some amazing ideas based around romance on a budget.

She posted a great idea called The 12 Lays of Christmas a couple years ago. If you are tight on money this year or if you just want to spice things up a bit, head over there and check it out. Basically, the idea is to have sex every day for 12 days leading to Christmas. Now, who wouldn't want that?! She has a great printable to go with each day so head over there and take advantage of this free idea!

Halloween Costume Sale

The Halloween Costumes are on sale over at Yandy.com. If you want a sexy costume for next year or for your husband's private viewing pleasure, head over there and score a great deal.

It could even be fun to dress up in something like this while you're going about the mundane tasks around the house and see how he reacts- or something like this under your clothes to surprise him with at bedtime once the kids are in bed. Happy Shopping!

VibeRite

The Hitachi Magic Wand has new competition! Still looking for some help reaching that mind-blowing orgasm? Check out the Vibe Rite and its attachment, the Flutter Tip.

Right now, buy the new VibeRite Wand and you'll get the Flutter Tip Wand Attachment at 50% off. 

Just add both items to your cart and add promo code WAND2 at checkout.

That's $61.50 for BOTH!

A Romantic Bedroom

A friend once told me great advice to "Just focus on keeping one room clean because after that it's just too overwhelming- especially after having kids." I tend to focus on the bedroom (and the kitchen). It's nice to have a place to just relax and feel calm.

• Less is more. Keep it simple and clean.
• Go to the dollar store and get some tea light candles and rose petals and perhaps some sheer sheets to hang over or around your bed
• Organize all of your stuff in ways that work for you
• Have some fun with the sheets
• Clean it regularly
• Make the bed every night before you get in bed
• Check out here for more ideas

During the "Fourth" Trimester

You now know a bit about personal care, intimacy and sex positions during pregnancy (see here) But what about after the baby?

I don't know about you, but I didn't really hear much about how your body recovers and how a sex life can continue post-pregnancy.

First off, let's just talk logistics.

You have a newborn baby which likely means....

• You aren't getting very much sleep
• The sleep you do get is in short spurts
• You rarely have time to shower and take care of yourself
• Your breasts have now taken on a whole new purpose and are more sensitive than you ever thought they would be
• Your breasts will hurt. Breastfeeding is hard and takes a while to get used to.
• You will likely have a really heavy period that lasts 2-6 weeks
• Your crotch will be a mess. You may have torn or had an episiotomy.
• You will be terrified to squat on the pot and poop.
• Not only will you be terrified to use the restroom, you might be a wee bit scared to let anything in that general area as well
• You will still have pregnancy fat for a while. It took 9 months to put on and will probably take that long to get off.
• You will be on an emotional roller coaster. You thought pregnancy was bad? Just wait. You could end up being a constant fountain of tears.
• Birth control could be difficult to figure out after having a baby. There are a variety of options. Make sure you talk to your health care provider. And yes, you can become pregnant right after having a baby even if you're breastfeeding.
• Most health care providers suggest not having sex for 6 weeks after the birthing process
• You will be worried about your baby and find it difficult to have an entire conversation with your husband
• ..... and the list could go on and on.

Having a baby is just hard! It's hard emotionally, physically, mentally and relationally.

If you have any, some or most of the typical baby adjustments going on, it could be hard to even have time to think about sex or even some quiet romance between you and your husband.

Let me tell you this little secret... If you have a good relationship with your husband, parenting will be so much easier than if you don't. Nourish the relationship you have with your spouse. Get out on dates. Make time for each other. Don't neglect each other. Communicate. That is my best advice for sex during the fourth trimester. Make each other a priority. Don't make the baby the only focus of your life and push your husband to the back burner. He will help out more and having a baby will be more manageable as you remember to include him in your life.

Husbands have a tough role during the fourth trimester. They don't quite know what you're going through and are trying their best to adjust to fatherhood and continue being supportive of your role as a mother. Be kind to your spouse.

A few other tips I have for you...

• If your doctor strongly recommends you wait 6 weeks, wait 6 weeks. You don't want to risk a tear or infection. There are other ways to satisfy both you and him.
• Take it slow when you have sex again post-baby. Basically, it will be like it's your first time again. Relax. Use lube. It's common for there to be some dryness with all of the hormone changes. You may also notice you aren't as tight anymore. Do some kegels. Take control of your encounter. If you had a c-section, your abs will likely hurt a lot so just take it slow. You don't want to hurt yourself.
• You will be interrupted by a crying baby. It's just a matter of when. Men tend to react physically more to this than women at times. I heard some people that called their baby crying the "penis alarm" because they would inevitably be interrupted and the man would lose his erection. It just happens. Laugh it off and resume later.
• Visit a lactation specialist to get help breastfeeding. It should only hurt for a few weeks. If it's still hurting, just go get some feedback. Breastfeeding also helps you burn the baby fat faster than working out and helps your uterus shrink back. Once you get breastfeeding down, it will be easier for you to realize that breasts can be for fun and function. Lanolin works wonders.
• Shower, get dressed and take good care of yourself. You will be more in the mood when you are well taken care of. Find some lingerie that you feel good in. Lace does wonders for stretch marks...
• Don't get all caught up in your stretch marks, baggy skin, the fact you can't fit in your pre-pregnancy pants etc. You just birthed a baby! Your husband is likely thrilled that you carried that baby and happy to have the baby around. He doesn't care that your body is changed and neither should you.
• Track when the baby tends to sleep and plan a little bedroom retreat during a nap time. Your hormones will be a bit crazy and having sex usually tends to make you feel a bit better and like you can deal with life again or if you're highly anxious and having trouble sleeping, maybe it will make you sleepy.
• Accept other people's offers to help and watch the baby a bit- even if it's just for an hour nap for yourself or for a free meal. Don't feel like you have to do everything perfectly as a new mom. Nobody actually does everything on their Pinterest Board.

What helped get you through the fourth trimester?

What questions do you have about after delivery?

New Toy for the Ladies

Looking for a new toy?

Give the Sqweel a try. It's likely to make you do just as it's called! This one of the few oral sex simulators I've seen.

Tip: Be sure to have some lube on hand. Put the lube on your fingers and then have it run over instead of glopping the lube right onto the Sqweel.

If you need some pointers or tips be sure to check out the new section on Babeland's website about Sex Info and Tips.